How do you say goodbye when you are thrown out

Mysmokey

It's a long story and hard as **** to comprehend. For me still after 5 years. It all started on Dec 24, 2003. The Phone rang It was my sister (My immediate family lived in another state than I)I alway thought I had a close, loving family. She told my that her son had beed molested. My other nephew had touched him. My heart sank.
A week went bye with Family at each others throats. Adults blameing the childeren. Comments like he asked for the cousin to suck on him. Discuste, came to my mind How could adults be blaming the kids. Saying they were lyers, I had had enough!!!!!!
I made the phone call. An anonomous call to the police. My sister said she could Never call the police as my other sister would never forgive her if she did.
It did not matter to me I could not stand around and let these kids be blamed for something that I know they had NO responsibility in.
Hence 5 years latter where is this family!!!???
I hope and pray that they are Happy with what they have done. DID it ease your pain. Not one of them talk to me. They treat me as thou I did the deed. I worry about the kids. Last I heard One was cutting himself, the others who knows.
Its been 6 months since I spoke to any of my family
It's very hard when I know I did the right thing. I have a very large family and int hard as hell to cope.
writing helps.
WHAT IN THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?????????
When I move from this ****ing place I will not look back.
When I come back to this ****ing place it will only be to SHIT on their ****ing graves.

videoman

Well dude, you did the right thing. I, like many people also come from a dysfunctional family, and the best thing to do, is walk away and not look back.

Some people will tell you to kill em or whatever, I have a hard time promoting violence though. Again, I think you did the right thing.

While I do not believe justice exists, I do believe in atleast giving it a chance first.
Peace

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jonnyappleweed

I feel for the kids.It is most likely the agressor of the two children was molested also...If thats the cutter(possibly why they are cutting) you can't turn your back on them.Tell that child "you love them & that they can confide in you." It is easier for a realitive outside the home to break through to them.ONLY WHEN THE CHILD REALIZES WHAT WAS DONE,CAN WE BREAK THE CHAIN...
The 3 things in life we have no control over:
DEATH
TAXES
FAMILY

Hobo

The worst thing you could of done was wash your hands and forget what happened. You had to do something because as you put it, it didn't look like it was being handled the best way. Best of luck to you and your family, maybe try to get some counseling, its amazing what it can do.

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ISO2BWELL

Mokie:

I understand your situation...others have been there, and you are not alone.

As has been said, we can not control the actions of others. Your family made it's choices, and as a result must live with the consequences of those choices.

You did the right thing because it was the RIGHT THING. You are much stonger than they are, as a result, but sadly you are bearing the brunt of the guilt they have because you did what they didn't have the courage to do.

People choose their own path...they did, and you did. It hurts like hell (I do understand) but you did what was right...what they did wasn't. You need to move on with your own life now.

Regarding how you are feeling, I would really enourange you to work with a GOOD counselor..someone that has their crap together, and work through the feelings you have now...believe me, I don't like "counselors" as a rule, but I know from experience that it will help you to move on with your life.

It sucks to have family like that, but getting your own life solid and on-track is what you need to do....FOR YOU! Don't suffer with this pain any longer than you need to...it isn't your fault!

If it will help, drop me a PM and we'll get together and talk. I've got big ears and listen well, am not a counselor, but have travelled the road you are on.

ISO

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