Hi Everyone I'm writing this thread to see how many others out there have a friend that seems to smoke all your buds and never return the favor. I hate to complain and I'm always down to share but it’s hard to ignore hundreds of dollars of your weed disappearing into someone else’s lungs. I don't really know how much I’m losing but when someone comes to chill everyday for over a year and never contributes, it makes you wonder.
So now I have to decide what to do. I can't continue to support his lazy behavior and it seems so taboo in these parts to smoke up without sharing with everyone who just happens to be in the room(keep in mind this person hasn't had a job by choice ever). Would it be wrong to match bowls with other friends and leave him out of the circle because like I said, he has NEVER contributed? My friends and I are really starting to resent this person and I’m ultimately afraid that he will alienate himself completely just because he is unwilling to GET A JOB!!!

Do it once, shame on him, do it twice, shame on you
The person defiantly has no respect for you and you need to have respect for yourself first.
And the line “if you don't share I'll hate you crap” is for children.

well put munchies.

Ya and I think supporting his lazy habbits isn't going to encourage him to get a job. In fact, smoking him up all the time is giving him even more excuses not to get a job.

Thats a tough call! But, I had a "friend" like that and finally I just had to lay it all on the table and with all my back east charm and tact I said "Dude are you ever going to buy some weed"! and he was a bit upset about it for about a week or so, then he finally came over with some buds and we just let it all blow over. I will tell you this, after that situation when he did have it, he was the tightest MoFo with his buds, so we all made it a rule that if you have it and you are going to enjoy ours, we are all going to go bowl for bowl! Long story short, tell him flat out that he needs to start putting up! I just can't smoke out in front of someone and not invite them to smoke too. It's the Deadhead in me to share!

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You sound like a giving person. I would share my last piece of bread with a stranger. But, maybe you would be doing him/her a favour by waking them up to reallity. Sounds like it is time for a wake up call. If it is a long time friend do it alone to allow the person to make a correction without loosing face to the whole group. Hoping you still get to keep a friend this way too. Good luck and be positive too.

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Your story reminds me of

LOL I liked the song! this is all good advice everyone. It looks like im just going to have to stand up for myself. it wont be that hard but i have the feeling he would rather stay at home being lazy rather then having friends and a job.

As a kid my dad used to always say "If you don't work you don't eat".

This dude seems like more of a mooch than a friend.

I got a buddy that cant contribute herbs to the cause because he cant afford to after paying rent and child support...but when I need help he is always the first one offering his hand.Plus he helps in the garden so it's all good.

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"You've gotta be outta your mind not to smoke dope"
-Jack Herer

When friends are in need, a friend lends a hand but, what you've described sounds like:

The two of you are sitting, side by side in a row boat. You continue rowing your oar, while he does nothing but complain he's not getting anywhere because you make him go round in circles with all that incessant rowing.

Or ask around for some male plants. Every time he shows up, break out the ****-weed.

Or tell him you found Jesus and done seen the light!

Make a "sexual pass" at him and scare him off? (I'd tell my good friends why I was doing it)

Or be just honest and tell him "the well's gone dry".


Granny

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roll a thumb sized joint and smoke it to the head, dont even exhale in hes direction

Personal Bill of Rights

1. I have the right to ask for what I want
2. I have the right to. say no to requests or demands I can't meet.
3. I have the right to express all of my feelings, positive or negative.
4. I have the right to change my mind.
5. I have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.
6. I have the right to follow my own values and standards.
7. I have the right to say no to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe or it violates my values.
8. I have the right to determine my own priorities.
9. I have the right not to be responsible for others' behavior, actions, feelings or prohlems
10. I have the right to expect honesty from others.
11. I have the right to be angry at someone I love.
12. I have the right to be uniquely myself.
13. I have the right to feel scared and say '1'm afraid."
14. I have the right to say '1 don't know.
15. I have the right not to give excuses or reasons for my behavior.
16. I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings.
17. I have the right to my own needs for personal space and time.
18. I have the right to be playful and frivolous.
19. I have the right to be healthier than those around me.
20. I have the right to be in a nonabusive environment.
21. I have the right to make friends and be comfortable around people.
22. I have the right to change and grow.
23. I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others
24. I have the right to be treated with dignity and respect
25. I have the right to be happy.


didn't mean to start a rant, but it seemed to fit. I know I posted this a while ago in Spirituallity.

Peace

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You think thats bad? Try having a younger brother that calls you in the hospital while your in Chemo Therapy and wants to sell you some good medicine for 300$ a 1/2 oz and doesnt even ask how your doing. I know the feeling of having provided a ton of money in Good Buds without a return more less a thank you.
Peace,
Med

man ive been there and its gettin ridiculous! we jus need to seriously cut him off. first the other 2 now him? wut do they think this is!?!

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Hey man , those kinda people are always gonna be here like Cops & Roaches,
IT IS TABOO to smoke off of someone and NOT return the favor!
( Around here we will smoke infront of you and not even look ur way if u didnt throw in, and if ur crazy enuff to ask " can i hit that " then ....... u'll prolly get a 'crazy' answer )

What you gonna have to do is TUFF LUV ... Theres no other way around it.

You could say " Hey man, Moneys gettin tight, and i cant afford to smoke as much, so im gonna cut wayyy back on my stash and I CANT AFFORD TO SUPPLY EVERYBODY FREE WEED"

or you could put it like this :
" hey man, if u gonna keep smokin up all my weed, u gonna have to get a job or some money and help me keep my bag up"

Or , what i would do is :
" Damn man, when YOU gonna come and blaze with me? instead of us always smoking mine? "

Basically man, if you dont just come out with it, stand firm on ur word, and BE SERIOUS about it,

this situation will continue to happin.

The ball's in ur court. If u ALLOW it to happin, then there's no need to complain, right??

As far as hittin bowls infront of him, i would switch up for awhile, go to a friends house to smoke, or just say you dont have any at the moment,
tell'em u sold it all,
then again dont lie, just tell him the truth.

It is saddening isn't it. Gotta accept it's reality and move on. Chalk it up to another one of lifes selfish little things learned and get on to something happier like smokin that fat J you have in your hand at the moment!
Peace and Love to All!
Med

Tell that mofo GETCHYA MONEY RIGHT

These Rights we do actually have and sorry but they are about it so cherish em! Thank you for this jangel sweetie we needed this

well since he is not working - teach him to grow - he has the time - and you can then split the crop

you know the old saw...give a man a joint and he gets high for a day...teach him to grow and he can get high for a lifetime..or maybe it was something about fish